“Growth seems optimally to occur through listening, when the listener is not demanding anything or judging the speaker. Through the intimate contact of being heard, the speaker is able to grow in whatever way he or she determines.
Now here is where vipassanā really helps: to practice vipassanā is to be a skilled internal listener. If we can externalize the practice so that we listen to others as we have learned to listen to ourselves, the same mechanism for growth is available to others as we have used on ourselves. As in our own internal practice, the awareness of others must be laced with affection in order for the trust and growth to be complete. Then we essentially offer the speaker a meditative environment, and the same healing can potentially occur within them as within ourselves.”
- Rodney Smith May All Beings Practice Dying 1998